Create Peace and Harmony - Be Kind

Today more and more people are simplifying their lives, reducing their material consumption, developing a sense of place, and investing in restoring a healthy balance with the earth.  Rather than continually consuming more stuff, people are building their relationships with family, community, and nature.  When we act considering the needs and well being of all, it becomes deeply gratifying because it serves a deeper purpose.

In a world menaced by all kinds of destructiveness, loving kindness is a necessity.  Loving-kindness, whether in deed, word, or thought is the only constructive means for promoting accord, peace, and mutual understanding. 

Loving-kindness is a source of well-being and safety.  To promote one’s own self interest is a primitive motivation of human nature.  When transformed into the desire to promote the interest and happiness of others, the basic urge of self-seeking overcome, and the mind becomes universal by identifying its own interest with the interest of all.  Doing so actually promotes one’s own well-being in the best possible manner.   Here are a three ways you can be kind.

    To Yourself – Take to time to appreciate the things you do well, to care of yourself, and rest.  Pace yourself, reduce expectations, create meaningful experiences.  It will bring you happiness and joy.
    To Others – On a daily basis, let others know what you appreciate.  It builds your relationships and good will.
    To the World –   Consider donating to charity or giving a helping hand.  Serving a purpose larger than yourself is deeply gratifying and lasting.

Psychologists estimate, on average, that more than eighty percent of your happiness comes from relationships, health, spiritual life, friends, and work fulfillment.  Only seven percent is about money.  Take time to be kind.

The Eco Mind

Here in St. Louis, flowers are blooming and trees are budding.  We are celebrating the new growth of spring.   Just as we enjoy seeing the new life of spring, we also can celebrate new growth by expanding our ways of seeing the world.  I would like to share with you a new growth of that is emerging in a number of disciplines.  It is called the Eco Mind.

The Eco mind is a world view that looks at the world in relationship to everything else. It creates a more life-serving mental map than one that only focuses on completion for scarce physical resources. Breakthroughs are occurring in a range of disciplines are confirming the positive social aspects of ourselves.  We are complex human creatures with many sources of strength that enable us to cooperate and work together in the best interest of all rather than just to compete.

We all have core assumptions in how we view the world.  These assumptions, often hidden, determine what we see and what we do not. They are often based on outdated limited views of ourselves developed at an earlier time.  Upon reflection, we can change them.  This spring, consider expanding your view by developing your Eco Mind.      

Loving from the Deeper Truth

As we honor our deeper aspirations for contribution and change, we often make plans only to have them fall aside.  One way to accomplish your goals is to align them with your strengths of character and let them be fueled by a deeper sense of purpose.  Discovering this power is deeply meaningful when we view it from the need to overcome old false patterns.  This helps to catalyze new transformation and growth.  Learn more about this process by reading the January newsletter. Then join us on February 14 at 9:00 AM to share on "Loving From the Deeper Truth."   Tuesday, Feb. 14, 9:00-10:00 AM, CDT, 760-569-9000, access code 308311#

Creative Giving - The Gift of Appreciation

The holiday season is a time for giving, sharing, and celebrating.  It can bring much joy and also a lot of stress.  We get caught up in the activities of the season with gifts to buy, food to eat, and the challenges that can pop up in our relationships. One way to reduce stess is through appreication.  Try it, first for yourself and then others.  Then join us for our teleconference on Creative Giving, 

Tuesday, Dec 13, 9:00-10:00 AM, CDT, 760-569-9000, access code 308311#

So many times when we approach giving and receiving, we see ourselves as

Celebrating Change

Here in the Northern Hemisphere, we are in the middle of celebrating the fall harvest. We enjoy seeing the colors of the trees and the fruits of our hard work.  When I think of the harvest, I think of the successes I have seen in the couples and families with whom I work.  Every dream has seeding times, growing times, and harvesting times.

It is deeply gratifying to me to celebrate the harvest of families who have grown their relationships. This continues to be a source of inspiration, healing, laughter, and joy for me and helps to create the kind of caring community that is needed for well being and flourishing of everyone. I have discovered five well worth celebrating in creating 
successful change:  They are character, committment, connection, communication, and co-creative solutions.  Learn about these five aspects of change in my October newsletter.  Go to the seminars section and listen to the recording a lively teleconference on how these principles apply to your lives.

Creating Home Harmony

Teleconference - "Creating Enviroments of Harmony"
Tuesday, June 14, 9:00-9:30 AM
Dial 760-569-9000, Access Code 308311#

Join us on Tuesday, June 14 for a  teleconference on creating home harmony.”  I will be interviewing Samantha Shields who helps individuals and families reduce clutter and design their homes to make them more harmonious and livable.  It is a real help to have someone who has experience and training in creating home environments to give you new ideas.  Be sure to bring your questions.  

We will also be hearing cultural views from anthropologist, Dr. Jane Granskog. Do sustainable societies and cultures require a lot of stuff?  What is really necessary for healthier environments and living? What is the difference between order that is externally imposed vs voluntarily chosen?  Come join us to gain insights and support for harmonious living.

 

Create Harmony - Move Beyond the Battle with Stuff

Battling stuff can be a real challenge for many families. If you want to move beyond the battle, you might want to consider tapping into your strengths, and put the challenge of battling with stuff in a broader context.  Today, many see simplifying our lives as a an opportunity to change to a much healthier style of living.  It becomes a way create a new vision and take action to make a difference. Here are a few tips to that might help you broader

Create Harmony by Reducing Environmental Disorder

Have you ever noticed that when your home, office and surroundings are clean, orderly and attractive, that the people around you seem to get along?  Less stuff means that you have less to manage, less stress with bills, and more opportunities to develop your relationships. 

Recently, Discover Magazine reported a series of fascinating studies that investigated the impact of disordered environments on people’s friendliness

Reduce Your Fear of Public Speaking - Fred Miller Says it Like It Is

Each month I do an interview on how people use their strengths to overcome significant challenges.  This month, we investigated how character strengths can help you to overcome one of most people's greatest fears, Public speaking.  Some people fear public speaking more than dying! So says Fred E. Miller, author of his just published book, "No Sweat Public Speaking."  

When I interview speakers, I look for their strengths.  My guess was that Fred’s top strength was his ability to put people at ease and his sense of humor.  He took the strengths test and found his top strength actually was integrity and authenticity.  This strength shows up in his straight-talk, down to earth style. 

Indeed, I have watched a couple of the speakers he has coached.  They were enthusiastic, clear, entertaining, and definitely looked calm, -- as if they had no sweat.  When I asked Fred about his secret formula for reducing speaking fear, he said “My clients have their sweat glands surgically removed.”  Needless to say, he was teasing.  For good practical tips, just listen to the replay in the in the conference calls.

 

OvercomeYour Fears: "No Sweat Public Speaking."

One of the biggest challenges you may face in your life is public speaking. You need to share your ideas with others for an idea to take hold. This may occur with a few friends or colleagues, in a business setting, or at a public speaking event. Survey after survey shows that more people fear public speaking than any other fear. Statistically it affects 75% of all the people. Many ideas lay dormant because of this fear. It holds back many careers.

On April 19th, I will be interviewing one of my colleagues, Fred E. Miller, on how you can make public speaking, "No Sweat." Fred E. Miller is a speaker, author and coach. He has just published his book, No Sweat Public Speaking. Come join us on April 19th to hear how he uses his strengths of solid know- how, practical ingenuity, and humor to put you at ease.  The Dial in number is 760-569-9000, Access code 308311#.

Warm Regards,

Dr. Alice

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