Joy in The Face of Pain?

All of us lose loved ones over the course of our lives. The pain of those losses especially sharp during the holiday season.  The events in Connecticut this last week have been especially tragic.  We find ourselves dazed, sad, angry, and fearful.  We want to do something to reach out to reassure ourselves that our world can be safe and caring. How can we experience the joys of the Holiday season at a time like this?

Many times, when we face tragedy, we look at it from the present moment.  It can fuel quick action. Other times, after the initial emotions subside, we dismiss it and go on with our lives. Rather than acting on the negative emotion or dismissing it we can choose the practice of calming, embracing, and looking deeply into the pain, honoring our suffering in an empathetic and supportive way.   It taps into our hunger for the sacred and a deeper spiritual power.  A deeper spiritual message emerges and we begin to view it from a broader perspective.  The pain transforms to an energy the helps us to create new intentions and new actions. 

When we look at the challenges of the shootings this year, we can see deep societal issues -- a need to reduce the emphasis on violence, healthy role models for boys, and the need to have restrictions on assault weapons to name a few. We can each be sensitive to these issues and take new actions within our awareness of the values that are important to us.  All actions count, no action is too small. When we honor our deeper values in memory of those important to us, they stay with us in spirit.  

Let us heal ourselves by using these painful experiences to honor the those in Connecticut increasing our awareness of the problems, and taking new action in their honor.  It gives deep meaning to our lives and an appreciation of the power of spirit to bring us through adversity. 

Perhaps this is the essence of the Joy of this season, -- the ability of our higher spirit to bring us through pain and tough times.

Mission

Mission Our mission is to create a lasting legacy of happier, more satisfying lives by teaching concepts and skills that promote health, well being, and long-lasting relationships.

Vision Our vision is to give people the tools they need to be happy and whole by raising and expanding their consciousnesses.

Values Our lives are a manifestation of our thinking. "Authentic Happiness" is a by-product of a reflective pursuit of pleasure, engagement, and a meaningful life. We reject the negative thinking so pervasive in our society that assumes scarcity and deficiency, actively replacing those assumptions with a self-fulfilling expectation of prosperity.

Family Orientation Our true families are the people to whom we feel most closely connected. We may experience this affinity by bloodline and/or emotional bonds. Families teach acceptance, provide a perspective across generations, and give an opportunity to create solutions for the greater good.

Relational Importance We honor relationships and social connectedness as primary contributors to health and well-being.

Co-creative Partnerships True partnerships give us opportunities to move past power struggles, and to work together to create solutions that operate well for all.

A Holistic Philosophy We reject the Cartesian philosophy that artificially separates mind, body, and spirit as patently false, and ultimately, harmful. We are of a whole. We can actively evolve to higher consciousness by releasing unconscious thought patterns and beliefs that lead to separation, while promoting positive wholeness.

Love and Success in Life

Successful Relating:
Fulfillment through Connection and Community
Alice Vlietstra, Ph.D.  Editor
Love and Success in Life

February, 2009

In this issue:
1. Welcome
2. Your Deeper Connection
3. Love and Success in Life
4. Announcements

1. Welcome

Welcome.  Happy Valentine's Day!  This weekend we celebrate Valentines
Day as well as President's Day.  Have you noticed that our celebrations have something in common? It is our deeper values.
 
Valentine's day is actually shrouded in mystery, as there are at least three different Saint Valentine's, and any one could have become the inspiration for St. Valentines Day. One thing we do know, is that Valentine's Day as well as the
Presidents day were inspired by  heroes who stood up for their deeper values. It is deeply gratifying to acknowledge these same values within others and
ourselves. 
        
2.  Your Deeper Connection 

Today is a wonderful day to celebrate love.  It is great to indulge in yummy
chocolates and spend special time with your partner and friends. Even better are the opportunities to acknowledge the special strengths and values that give life.

First discover them within yourself.  You will know when you are connecting with
your special strengths because you will be doing activities you enjoy. When you
are in these activities you experience flow, feel enthusiastic, and excited. You also tend to create special projects around them. This is where you enjoy giving. When you are in your strengths you also are more able to follow  your vibes, honor your intuition, and take bigger risks.
  
This is your deeper connection with your essential self. When you invest your time and energy in these qualities, all of your relationships get better. Why? The more you discover the life sources within yourself, the more you will love yourself and the more you will see love in others.  

3.  Love and Success in Life

One of the best ways to share love is to express what you appreciate.
Expressions of appreciation are most effective when they are authentic, that is, from the heart, consistent, and specific.  For example, say to a friend or partner, "What I appreciate about you most is . . ." or, write it out on a very special note in your Valentine's card. The more specific the better.

Studies show that when parents express love, optimism, and a zest for life, their
children become happier.  When partners express appreciation to their mates,
it builds their relationships.  When managers walk around and acknowledge
their worker, productivity is enhanced. When customers are acknowledged for
their purchases, they are more likely to purchase again. 

All in all, our little acknowledgements can help grow a successful life in
many ways. Now isn't that attractive? Happy Valentine's Day,

4.  Announcements

 Has the economy given you challenges?  Come join me at on February 17th,
for a booster in creating a fresh start. I will be giving short demonstrations of
two principles for success.  Location: "A Gathering Place," 12131 Dorsett Road,
Ste. 101, Maryland Heights, MO, 63043 

There will be a teleseminar on February, 27th at 2:00 PM on "Creating a Fresh Start, Fired or Inspired." just click on the link below.
 http://www.instantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=6134781

Don't Miss this one:  Dr. Stan Fine and myself will be giving a workshop on "Secrets to Success: How to Grow Your Dreams." In it Dr. Fine will be giving the World Premier of his new video "The Law of 12." If you have read this far, you are in for a very special treat. Click on the link below: http://www.secretstosuccess.eventbrite.com

Have a Great Day!

Dr. Alice

© Copyright 2009 Alice Vlietstra.  All rights reserved. The above material is copyrighted but you may retransmit or distribute it to whomever you wish as long as not a single word is added or deleted, including the contact information.  However, you may not copy it to a web site without my permission.

 

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